I read a friend's blog earlier this week and she was asking why we don't celebrate being single. Well, we must have been on the same page, because I have been wondering the same.
Being 31 and single, I often encounter people who give you the look of pity and say things like "Your time is coming", "God has a plan", and "Don't worry, you're still young". Here's a newsflash and I really don't mean this ugly, but I already know all those things. You know what else? I don't exactly feel like I'm lacking or somehow defunct because I am not in a relationship. Let me tell you what being single has taught me....
Being single has taught me the joy of being alone and not lonely. During this time, I've really learned who Kim is...not just the mama part of me (which tends to be the person I am most the time), but the part of me that fundamentally makes me who I am. I have fixed my own toilet, plunged my sink, taken out trash, hung curtains, moved furniture, and all kinds of other things that I know I would have relied on someone else to do.
I too often hear people - mostly women - who seem to feel incomplete because they are not in a relationship. My only advice to them is that you need to be complete in yourself before you are in a relationship with someone else. Usually when I say that I get questions that pretty much mean "You're a man hater, aren't you?" I hate to disappoint, but no, I'm not a man-hater. =) I don't want to burn my bra in protest, have only female animals, or join a book club where women sit around and discuss Oprah book club books, the latest movie on Lifetime, and entertain everyone with how someone did me wrong.
I guess my question is: Why isn't okay just to be where you are? I understand that we all have dreams and goals in life, but take some time to enjoy right where you are today.
So, in conclusion...I'm 31, single, yes, I have two cats - no, I'm not crazy, and all in all it's a pretty beautiful, amazing life.
