All The Single Ladies...

I read a friend's blog earlier this week and she was asking why we don't celebrate being single.  Well, we must have been on the same page, because I have been wondering the same.

Being 31 and single, I often encounter people who give you the look of pity and say things like "Your time is coming", "God has a plan", and "Don't worry, you're still young".  Here's a newsflash and I really don't mean this ugly, but I already know all those things.  You know what else?  I don't exactly feel like I'm lacking or somehow defunct because I am not in a relationship.  Let me tell you what being single has taught me....

Being single has taught me the joy of being alone and not lonely.  During this time, I've really learned who Kim is...not just the mama part of me (which tends to be the person I am most the time), but the part of me that fundamentally makes me who I am.  I have fixed my own toilet, plunged my sink, taken out trash, hung curtains, moved furniture, and all kinds of other things that I know I would have relied on someone else to do.

I too often hear people - mostly women - who seem to feel incomplete because they are not in a relationship.  My only advice to them is that you need to be complete in yourself before you are in a relationship with someone else.  Usually when I say that I get questions that pretty much mean "You're a man hater, aren't you?"  I hate to disappoint, but no, I'm not a man-hater.  =)  I don't want to burn my bra in protest, have only female animals, or join a book club where women sit around and discuss Oprah book club books, the latest movie on Lifetime, and entertain everyone with how someone did me wrong. 

I guess my question is:  Why isn't okay just to be where you are?  I understand that we all have dreams and goals in life, but take some time to enjoy right where you are today. 

So, in conclusion...I'm 31, single, yes, I have two cats -  no, I'm not crazy, and all in all it's a pretty beautiful, amazing life.

Complete Thoughts....

I cannot believe the month of July has almost passed without one blog written.  Really?  How did that happen?  When I went out to edit an old post, I realized that I had 7, yes SEVEN, partial blog entries sitting out there.  Now, when have y'all known me not to have something to say?  I had blogs on contentment, laugh lines, feeling funky - a whole range of thoughts and emotions and yet, not one finished blog entry. 

So, here's an update...since I last blogged, I'm glad to say that both my pride and well other areas have recovered from the splinter.  I will be honest enough to say that I was at the same house where the splinter incident took place just last Friday, and I didn't sit on the outside deck.  Ha!  One splinter - complete with the loss of my dignity - is enough for me.  =)

I guess the biggest thing is that I have been house hunting.  Now, let me tell you something that I'm sure you already know - the mantra for house hunting is "You don't know - unless you go".  We have seen houses online that looked beautiful, only to get there and the entire kitchen be missing.  No, really.  We've seen great houses in not so great neighborhoods, crappy houses in wonderful neighborhoods, and a lot of houses in between.  It's been very exciting to go looking.  I am definitely taking my time in this process.  Buying a house is a huge decision, and I want us to move in knowing we are going to be there for a long time...not move in looking for our next house.

Since the last time I blogged I've experienced credit card fraud, the check engine light came on in the car, I had to get glasses, written letters to troops, made my first ever homemade German chocolate cake, took a couple of days vacation, bought new sonic toothbrushes, celebrated 4th of July with fireworks, tears and a slaw dog, had dinner with an old friend from high school, made several new friends, spent countless hours discussing video games and various other things that 11 year old boys are interested in (man I love that kid), laughed so hard I instantly added to my laugh lines, and yeah, probably even cried once or twice (Dang that Toy Story 3 - that is what did it). 

All in all...I'd say it's been a pretty typical month in the life of Kim.  ha!  So, there you go...I think I just summed up all of those 7 unfinished blog entries at once.  That might just be the most amazing thing that has happened all month.  =)